Ever since having Sergio two and half years ago I have struggled with saying I had a C-Section and even now after having Alana I struggle with it even though I shouldn’t.
For some reason, when people ask how you delivered (which I don’t understand the question because I believe it to be irrelevant) and you say C-Section, sometimes it comes with a little smirk, like you are lazy and irresponsible for going that route.
I recently read a post by Arielle Charnas from Something Navy and felt compelled to write this personal post. I strongly believe that science and technology was created for a reason. In my particular case I feel blessed to live in a time where this option exists because in another time I don’t know if my kids or me would be alive.
In Sergio’s case, I did labor for 12 hours, when my water finally broke it came out with meconium which translates to, he being so stressed that he pupped inside. I had dilated only 3cm and if we waited to get to 10cm he could breathe this and end up in NICU or God knows what else could have happened. With Alana, we had it all planned out because my Dr didn’t want a natural birth since it only had been two years since my first delivery.
In this case, I have heard many people approach me and tell me that it is not true, you can give birth vaginally if you would have wanted to, your Dr needs to do more research, etc. Personally, I am not a Dr and neither are the people that approached me or sent me DMs, if he said it was not safe why would I doubt him? He is the Dr, why would I risk putting my life or even worse, my daughters life in harms way just so I could deliver vaginally, sorry but to me, it makes no sense at all.
Even with all the planning, my water broke a week before my scheduled C-Section and we rushed to the hospital. When my Dr checked I had dilated zero, nothing. He told me we would go ahead and get started with the surgery and he assured me that it would have probably ended in a C-Section anyways because it would have been extremely painful given that my water broke super early and nothing was even close to being dilated.
In the end, I am happy and feel blessed that I have two healthy kids that are growing in a loving home.
I encourage you give birth whichever way feels right for you and what your Dr tells you is right for you and your baby. I don’t know any different but I can assure you I felt all the pain, the pulling and shoving and giving birth via C-Section is no easy task. I have been very blessed to have recovered fast and really easy but I guess this is just how my body is built plus all the TLC I give to it, specially during my pregnancies.
I am done feeling guilty and having to explain why this birth or that birth. I choose to just ignore and look the other way. We should support each other not throw them to the floor because of how they had or chose to deliver. The way you deliver doesn’t make you a good or bad mother.
I wanted to share this post with all of you because carrying a pregnancy is not easy, every woman is different and we should lift each other up at all times. What are your thoughts?